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When she cancels plans last minute

Plans were set. She cancels close to the time, often with a vague reason.

Interest doesn't disappear—it shows up in effort. A cancellation without a clear reschedule is a signal, not an inconvenience.

Quick Reference

  • Don't chase a new time immediately
  • Respond calmly: "No worries"
  • Let her suggest the next plan
  • If she doesn't → move on
  • One cancel = data point, not a pattern (yet)

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