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You're not sure if she's interested

Responses are inconsistent. Sometimes engaged, sometimes distant.

Interest shows up in consistency, not intensity. Mixed signals are often low or uncertain interest—not a puzzle to solve.

Quick Reference

  • Match her effort, don't exceed it
  • Avoid chasing clarity too early
  • Give space and observe
  • Don't try to "win her over" through volume
  • If it feels one-sided, it probably is

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