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What to wear on a first date

You want to make a strong impression but don't want to look like you're trying too hard.

Attraction is often about ease. The goal isn't to impress—it's to feel natural and put together. If you're adjusting your clothes all night, it's the wrong choice.

Quick Reference

  • Fit > brand
  • Keep it simple (1 strong piece max)
  • Clean shoes matter more than you think
  • Avoid anything distracting
  • Wear something you've worn before

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